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Micaela Favro micaelaile4515 — Absolutely loved this book. I also love that the series is independent so you don't have to read them all or even in order.

Florence Institute _ — This was my non-fiction for February. After reading The Gift of Fear last year, it was an interesting to follow up with another look at abuse and violence. Even as much as I read, it can be very difficult for me to understand why people let themselves stay in abusive relationships for as long as they do, but one thing I really appreciated about this book was the way it described all the different types of verbal abuse - some of which I wouldn't have considered abusive at all, but maybe just frustrating or annoying. It's interesting to see how they can really be more than that if you look at the consequences (stealing straight out of the book here): 1. A distrust of her spontaneity. 2. A loss of enthusiasm. 3. A prepared, on-guard state. 4. An uncertainty about how she is coming across. 5. A concern that something is wrong with her. 6. An inclination to soul-searching and reviewing incidents with the hope of determining what went wrong. 7. A loss of self-confidence. 8. A growing self-doubt. 9. An internalized "critical voice." 10. A concern that she isn't happier and ought to be. 11. An anxiety or fear of being crazy. 12. A sense that time is passing and she's missing something. 13. A desire not to be the way she is - "too sensitive," etc. 14. A hesitancy to accept her perceptions. 15. A reluctance to come to conclusions. 16. A desire to escape or run away. 17. A belief that what she does best may be what she does worst. 18. A tendency to live in the future - "Everything will be great when / after..." 19. A distrust of future relationships. Some of these "symptoms" I've felt before - not with regards to my relationship, but when dealing with depression related to my mother's passing. But when dealing with grief, eventually (I hope, anyway) you accept and learn to move on with life. I can't imagine thinking that you would have to live like this permanently or for the long term. It's sad and scary. The one thing I wish that the book had gone more in depth with (which I do think is addressed on Evans' website and in other books) is abuse in situations outside of romantic relationships. She touched on the impacts of a verbally abusive parent, but I would be interested in reading more about that kind of abuse, as well as abuse in the workplace, or teacher/coach/mentor-to-student, peer-to-peer, etc. I think these kinds of things are patterns, and I think they likely start when people are young. I'd be interested in seeing how these cycles begin, and even how educators can help to counter them.

Michael Abellera meekowdesigns — Words cannot express my thoughts on this book! Oh, wow. AMAZING! Hodkin should write and write and write until her fingers fall off if she is going to keep giving us books like this! I LOVED THIS BOOK! I think that all who come across this review/book and think that they are unsure about it should just listen to me. This is one great book! I can't believe that I got the chance to read this before it came out! Extremely well written, Hodkin took me away from the couch and transported me to another place entirely. I can honestly say that I don't recall using the restroom, eating, or anything else other than reading this book. I hope I ate and used the lou! :D This book will knock your socks off!