Nicolas Manné itibaren Hamzalı/Yozgat, Turkey

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Why do I keep reading memoirs? Because I keep hoping that people write them because they feel their life has something in common with the rest of us. Not to find out that a book is written by a spoiled "poor little rich mom" who becomes an armchair psychologist and can't stop spending thousands of dollars on boutique self-help programs. Now let's step back. You can read the description yourself and infer that this is a story about a teen runaway who enters an extremist reform school and ultimately becomes best friends with her mom. That is certainly part of the book, and in fact the best part of the book. Mia (the daughter) writes part of the story and her perspective is fascinating and personable--I think it really captures the mind of a troubled teen and its maturation into adult sensibility. Claire (the mom), on the other hand, is a small child in an adult's body whose "maturation" is long overdue and again, costs likely tens of thousands of dollars. She tells of an abusive husband who is to blame for the major psychological problems of both her and her daughter. Oh, and Claire's mom was cold to her as a child, so that's also why she is so messed up. Really? Really? I thought this fatalistic, Freudian view was archaic enough that we weren't still talking about it as the sole sculptor of adult mental illness. Claire insists that Mia's "stuff" has everything to do with being sexually abused as a child and very little to do with being raised by an incredibly neurotic mother. While Claire finally gets it (somewhat) at the end, the preceding narrative completely discredits all of the therapists, counselors, and friends who have been telling her so all along. Claire ultimately can't admit that she is supposed to be the adult here. In addition, the New Age-y "Discovery" and "Focus" programs in which Claire and Mia participate couldn't possibly work for the rest of us. I have no beef with self-confrontation workshops and their capacity for mental discipline, but let's be real here. The average tuition in 2005 for a school like those described in this book--ironically, schools affiliated with the organization abbreviated WWASP--was $50,000. Tell me about the families who really need their delinquent children in therapy who can afford that. It was just so frustrating to read this book when Claire was talking. Mia I have no problem with--she's both a victim of her upbringing and a normal teen, and the reason this book gets 3 stars. But the issue is that the book is dominated by Claire's self-important wallowing. The New York Times Book Review called this "a testament to the power of the love between a mother and a daughter." To me it felt like a testament to the power of money and manipulative seminars to place a Band-Aid on the repression, boredom, and waste of the upper class.

Okuyucu Nicolas Manné itibaren Hamzalı/Yozgat, Turkey

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