Melanie Simard itibaren Sainte-Marie, France

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04/29/2024

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2018-05-18 17:40

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Tarafından yazılmış kitap Tarafından: Öğretmenim Dergisi Yayınları

This is a really good book. It was slow to start, spending pages upon pages talking about the benefits of being happy. Like, duh, just wanting to be happy isn't a good enough reason? I want to be happier because, uh, I'll be happier? Other than that, good stuff, though. Concrete suggestions backed by psychological study. Summary: - Your past doesn't determine your future. Increase your gratitude. Forgive. - Assume bad things are temporary and isolated to the particular context in which they occur. Assume good things are permanent and pervade every area of your life. Dispute the bad thoughts as needed. - Enjoy pleasures that don't require a lot of effort--savor them and share them-- but more importantly seek out gratifications, things that require effort and produce a sense of accomplishment. - To make your job meaningful, find a way to use your signature strengths there. Things to remember How to forgive (p. 79): REACH -Recall the hurt as objectively as possible. Try to imagine how it went from the other person's perspective and what they might have been thinking or feeling, with the assumption that they are not evil. -Empathize: try to understand from the other person's point of view. Reasons people hurt others: they feel their survival is threatened; they're afraid, worried, or hurt themselves; something about the situation; carelessness. -Altruistically give forgiveness. Remember a time when someone forgave you. Rise above the hurt and vengeance. -Commit yourself to forgive and make a record of it, by writing the person a letter, writing in your diary, telling a friend, etc. -Hold onto forgiveness--every time you think of the hurt, remember that you have forgiven it. My signature strengths (VIA strengths survey quiz starting p. 140, also available on www.authentichappiness.org): appreciation of beauty, gratitude, optimism, playfulness, and fairness. Hm, why do I love yarn and feel my mind go numb whenever I walk into work? I wonder... "There are few stronger predictors of happiness than a close, nurturing, equitable, intimate, lifelong companionship with one's best friend." (p.187) Well, duh, when you put it that way... 90% accurate predictors of divorce (p. 197): - a harsh startup in a disagreement - criticism of partner, rather than complaints - displays of contempt - hair-trigger defensiveness - lack of validation (particularly stonewalling) - negative body language happy and improving couples (p. 197): - find out each other's plans for the day before parting in the morning - have a low-stress reunion conversation at the end of each work day - demonstrate lots of affection, laced with tenderness and forgiveness - go out on a date once a week - exchange genuine affection and appreciation at least once a day p.199 The more inaccurately idealized the people saw their partners, the more stable the relationship. ??? I find this one hard to believe--sounds great until it wears off. p. 262 good life--using your signature strengths to obtain abundant gratification in the main realms of your life meaningful life--using your signatures strengths and virtues in the service of somehing much larger than yourself full life--experiencing positive emotions about the past and future, savoring positive feelings from teh pleasures, deriving abundant gratification from your signature strengths, adn using these strengths in the service of something larger to obtain meaning.

2018-05-18 19:40

SPK - SPF Geniş Kapsamlı Sermaye Piyasası Mevzuatı ve Meslek Kuralları Konu Anlatımlı Soru Bankası 1002 - Mehmet Doğan TrendKitaplar Kütüphanesi

Tarafından yazılmış kitap Tarafından: Pelikan Yayınevi

I finished this while my wife folded laundry, watching an episode of the Real Housewives. Tom Rachman's first book is the (relatively) present-day story of an American newspaper in Rome and the people it employs. Each chapter focuses on an individual involved with the paper in some capacity with interstitial chapters detailing the history of the paper from its inception through the current period the regular stories inhabit. Additionally, the chapters all have a headline from an actual event dating when the chapter takes place. It feels cliche to call a book a page-turner or readable, but I finished it quickly and enjoyed so much of the experience of reading the book that I find it hard to call it anything else. The anthology structure of the book lends to the readability because no character overstays his or her welcome (even though some come close), and the ones that make a really good impression leave the reader wanting more. However, there's a sadness that permeates each of the stories because every single one ends on such a downer note, especially the final two chapters. Ultimately, that sadness really takes away from the experience of the book overall. Rachman revisits the idea that the way people ingest information has changed dramatically over the last twenty years throughout each of the stories. Each character reiterates that the paper (and, in a larger sense, the idea of the newspaper) dies a little bit more each year, and, coincidentally, it appears that each of the characters die a little bit with each chapter. And that's what kills some of the enjoyment of the book for me: it's simply too much at times. If at least one of the chapters had ended with the central character getting the leg up on things as opposed to getting beaten down by their idea of the world being shattered, then I could easily say that the entire enterprise was enjoyable and worth the time. A book doesn't need to have a happy ending for me to like or enjoy it; Revolutionary Road is one of my favorite books and that's the king of downer endings, but I think that Rachman's novel stands out because it's several down endings as opposed to a single one. As it stands, the book is really good but so much of a kick in the gut that it's hard to look past the idea that I felt defeated having read most of these chapters. Some, like Ruby Zaga, are predictable in their sadness and their endings may even be viewed as comeuppance. That's fine with me. But Arthur Gopal? Oliver Ott? Abbey Pinnola? Holy shit, Abbey Pinnola's story made me want to throw the book across the room, it was so cruel and hateful. I guess that's the advantage of ebooks compared to regular books -- I have to think about whether or not my enjoyment of a book is really worth destroying my iPad. Usually, it isn't. The book is still good, bordering on great. But even with a title like The Imperfectionists, I wasn't expecting to get as crushing a reading experience as this provided.

Okuyucu Melanie Simard itibaren Sainte-Marie, France

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